Couples Counseling
Are you feeling frustrated and lonely in your relationship?
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You keep having the same fights but never solve them.
- You love your partner, but something feels off.
- It feels like you’re growing apart, even though you don’t want to.
- Big life changes—like moving, having kids, or a new job—have made it harder to talk.
- Small arguments turn into big fights more often.
- Stress from money, family, or work is making things harder.
- You miss feeling close but don’t know how to fix it.
- It seems like your partner doesn’t really hear or understand you.
You love your partner, but lately, it feels harder to connect. No matter how much you try, conversations don’t go the way you hope. Life is busy—between work, family, and everyday stress, it’s easy to feel like you’re just getting through the days.
Maybe you find yourselves sitting next to each other, caught up in screens or to-do lists instead of really talking. When you do try to connect, the conversation doesn’t flow like it used to, or small disagreements turn into bigger frustrations. Other times, it’s just quiet—not the comfortable kind, but the kind that makes you wonder if something is missing.
You want to be close again, but you’re stuck in the same cycle of arguments. You love your partner, and you’re not ready to call it quits, but you’re worried about what will happen if things don’t change soon. Going to bed could feel more like sleeping next to a stranger rather than this person you care about the most in the world.
Your relationship can be better.
We can work together and help you and your partner reconnect and feel at home with each other again.
Marriage is hard, but it doesn't have to be
Being with someone every day comes with ups and downs. Sometimes, you can feel incredibly frustrated with the same person you would do anything for.
Maybe you’ve thought:
- Why does it feel like we don’t understand each other anymore?
- How did we go from being best friends to feeling like strangers?
- Why is it so hard to just talk without it turning into a fight?
The Roommate Effect
Many couples don’t fight all the time. Instead, they just… exist next to each other.
It can look like:
- Feeling more like co-parents or roommates than romantic partners.
- Being too busy with work, kids, and responsibilities to connect.
- Falling asleep next to each other without really feeling together.
- Conversations that are mostly about logistics, not feelings.
Over time, the emotional distance grows. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
The good news? Change is possible. With the right effort, you can bring back the love, connection, and excitement you once had.
Find the fun and connection you've been missing
If you and your partner feel distant, couples therapy can help.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—a proven, research-backed approach that helps couples rebuild trust, deepen emotional bonds, and bring joy back into their relationship.
Why EFT?
- It works. EFT is backed by decades of research and is considered the gold standard in couples therapy.
- It gets to the root of the problem. Instead of just solving surface-level issues, EFT helps change the patterns that keep you stuck.
- It strengthens your connection. Couples who go through EFT report feeling closer, safer, and more understood.
Many couples say they’ve tried everything—date nights, better communication, even just waiting it out—only to find themselves back in the same frustrating place.
EFT helps you understand the deeper emotions driving your conflicts so you can make real, lasting change.
What to Expect in Sessions
Getting Started
Starting therapy can feel overwhelming, so here’s a breakdown of how it works:
- Getting to Know You – Before we meet, you’ll fill out some paperwork to share a little about yourself and your relationship. In our first session, we’ll talk about your relationship history and the challenges you’re facing.
- One-on-One Sessions – The next two sessions are individual, where I meet with each of you separately to understand your background and relationship patterns.
- Working Together – In session four, we come back together and start making real changes. From here, all sessions will be joint.
This process helps us figure out what’s really going on, so we can focus on changing the patterns that aren’t serving you anymore.
A Safe, Supportive Space
Couples therapy is vulnerable, but that’s where real change happens.
My job is to help you feel safe, heard, and understood—without taking sides. I don’t tell you what to do, but I do point out patterns that may be keeping you stuck.
For example, if one of you gets defensive or shuts down, we’ll slow things down and explore what’s really happening underneath. Over time, you’ll learn to recognize these moments in real life and make different choices before things escalate.
How couples therapy can change your relationship
Through EFT, couples therapy helps you:
- Recognize the cycle keeping you stuck. Most couples have a pattern of conflict they fall into again and again. Therapy helps you break it.
- Communicate without fighting. Learn how to express your feelings without triggering defensiveness or withdrawal.
- Rebuild trust and emotional safety. When both partners feel heard and understood, trust grows.
- Feel close again. Small changes lead to big results—helping you feel more connected, appreciated, and loved.
Common questions about couples therapy
Could marriage counseling actually make things worse?
It’s normal to worry about this. Therapy can sometimes feel like deep-cleaning your house—things might get messier before they get better.
But avoiding the problem doesn’t make it go away. Addressing it head-on can lead to a healthier, stronger relationship in the long run.
Isn’t therapy expensive?
Yes, therapy is an investment. But improving your relationship can positively impact your mental health, stress levels, and even physical health. My goal is to help you create lasting change so you don’t need therapy forever.
Are you going to take sides?
Nope! My job is to stay neutral and help both of you feel understood. Two things can be true at the same time, and I help you see each other’s perspectives without blame.
How do I know if we even need couples therapy?
Ask yourself:
- Am I happy in my relationship?
- When I hug my partner, do I feel close, or do I tense up?
- Can I talk openly, knowing they’ll listen and understand?
If you answered no to any of these, therapy might help. I’ve also written a blog post here to help you more thoroughly answer this question.
You can have the relationship you want
I’d love to help you and your partner build the relationship you desire. You can schedule directly on my calendar for a 15-20 minute consultation call with me to ask any questions and see if we are a good fit for your couples therapy goals. I will respond within 24 business hours.